Who doesn’t love to be cherished and pampered in a relationship? With few expectations, two individuals come close to each other, get physically and emotionally connected. But, things get frightful when one partner becomes aggressive, deprecated, and starts behaving dysfunctionally, and that becomes another partner’s worst nightmare.
These subtle signs say that your relationship has become toxic to live, and it’s good to get out of it soon.
Relationships, like most things in life, are worth having, requires effort. We have to accommodate and adapt our partner’s idiosyncrasies, deal with their faults, tackle their moods, etc.these all learnings build-up a passionate relationship. And it’s worth it.
However, some relationships are stressful and full of complexity, where both partners are supposed to require proportionately extra work. We are not clones; every individual is different; every human being has different choices.
So, if you found yourself in such a relationship where your happiness and interests depend on your partner’s mood, getting out of such relationships can be the best gift you can give to yourself – and these are toxic relationships.
If not left or controlled at the right time, they can be harmful to ones’ being. These kinda toxic relationships are not hopeless but must require substantial and enormous work.
What is a toxic relationship?
A toxic relationship is a relationship categorized by behaviors on the part of the toxic partner that are emotionally and, not infrequently, physically damaging to their partner.
Think of this way: a healthy relationship increases self-esteem and brings positivity, whereas a toxic relationship emotionally drains and sabotages self-love.
A sweet loving relationship involves mutual caring, loyalty, respect, allowing significant others to follow their passion and support like a robust wall.
A happy relationship is portrayed as a safe place, where both the partners can feel free, communicate well, plus a feeling of self-centered may bound the relationship stronger. Regarding the toxic relationship, dominance, insecurity, and a state of fear perpetually remain. To say a toxic relationship is dysfunctional is, at best, an understatement.
Keep one thing in mind that it takes two individuals behaviour and the way of analyzing things to have a toxic relationship. Don’t continue such relationships if you’re seeing your partner has started behaving weirdly after spending a few months of a happy relationship. Trust us, being single is far better than being in such a relationship where you are not valued.
The clear signs that show your relationship have become toxic.
Trust me; I had gone through a toxic relationship. When we start dating, everything seems so astonishing; we mutually take an interest in each other’s hobbies, go shopping, dine out, motivate each other to pursue dreams, but gradually things become inappropriate and manipulative, controlling behaviour pretty much on a daily basis. Sometimes, I feel claustrophobic; with putting every mistake blame for being harsh on every other thing, our relationship was no more a loving, healthy relationship but has entirely become a dysfunctional relationship. These are the clear signs which asked me to get out of such toxic relationships and live a life in a way that I wanted to be. With a relationship counselor, advice, and friends help, who opened up my eyes and made me proficient to move away from toxic relationships.
Trust me, no matter how much you love your partner, involving physical violence, or substance abuse calls an immediate intervention. Risking and losing your self worth for your significant other happiness doesn’t make an affectionate relationship. Though it’s hard to come back to a healthy life, it can be.
So, if you are still not sure what are the actual signs that depict your relationship has become toxic well, here are the signs to help you figure it out.
Nobody likes to hold their feelings and genuine emotions in their hearts, especially in a relationship when you are seeing things are not working well, and only love can heal it. You want to do your best to sort the situations, but your partner keeps pushing you down with saying aggressive words, not letting you and themselves speak the love language. Passion-aggression has become their middle name; then, it’s time to take a second look at your relationship. Not talking about your feelings is a sign of immaturity and can lead down a dangerous road.
The blame game is always on:
At a few stages of a relationship, we become so aggressive with our own problems, that we start putting the blame of our whatsoever condition on our better half. Whether not getting promoted in the office or things are not well at home, our partner is the one who is responsible for everything. So, if your partner never takes responsibility for their actions and keeps blaming you, that’s toxicity at its best.
A bit of jealousy looks cute in the relationship. But, when that jealousy builds up excessively in a negative way, that may put you in trouble. If your partner pokes you every time you step out with your friends or search your phone for an incriminating text or picture, it’s a subtle sign of a toxic relationship.
You don’t feel like to be yourself:
You won’t be able to crack jokes while watching movies or TV. You may not be supposed to have your favourite food or doing something that may interest you. Your partner does not much appreciate you but feels happy because you have become what they wanted you to be.
Ignorance or Avoidance:
Ignorance is the first sign that says your relationship has ended. If you see your partner is yelling and considering friends above you when you want them to stay, even if it’s happening every other day, then moving out from such toxic relationship is the best antidote you can give yourself.
Your only wish to make your partner happy:
You no longer care about your happiness; your goal has become to keep your partner happy and to spend most time pleasing them. You eat what they want, do that which they asked you to do, you basically have become their personal slave and no longer wish to live for oneself. You are in a highly manipulative toxic (dysfunctional) relationship where your emotions are controlled by your partner. You’re in trouble and need significant help
You do nothing right:
You wish to do everything perfectly, though you do, your partner always criticizes you. You won’t get to see the love for you in their eyes. For your partner, you are a failure and unworthy of love. Honestly, if you are getting such ruthless comments from the person whom you loved, then it’s time to take a step back.
Your friends and family don’t like them:
Fine, nobody wants to hear if somebody says – bad words to their partner. But if that somebody is your close friend and family member, then you should listen. If they are asking you that this relationship has no bright future and is changing you or has become toxic, then move out from it. Your friends and family love you and want the best for you
Have you ever witnessed any of these above-given signs in your relationship? Then you very well know where your relationship is leading to – a toxic relationship. To help you figure out with the things either consult a relationship counselor or therapeutic, it may help you in bringing this best of you and asks you to read the motivational/intellectual/positive books that develop the lost self-esteem and self-confidence. Believe in yourself!!