Some of the biggest secrets of life are awkward to hear, some are sweet, and some are downright heart-wrenching.
The time we saw a sweet girl/boy in elementary school, we quickly rushed to tell our friends how charming we found that person, but personally shy to initiate the talk with that person. And this would continue over and over as we move from one place to another.
But as adults, telling your crush about your feelings is incredibly considered bravery. I still remember how I confess my true-felt feelings to my crush on Facebook, and he replied by saying – “Sorry, I have a girlfriend.” Oops.
There was a time when people felt shy confessing their feelings to crush, but now the time has changed. It is the time when we found a new crush every day. And, it’s a good feeling.
If your mind is too juggling with the crazy confession questions like:
- How to tell your crush about your feelings?
- What will happen if things went wrong?
- And last, what if they ran away?
Not to worry, to boost your confidence, we are here to help you. Of course, in the 21st century, being upfront is significant.
1. Ask your friends to help you
A friend in need is a friend indeed. Nobody can understand you better than your friends; they’re like your brother/sister from another mother. Also, it’s a universal truth that there a friend who pushes and motivates you to deal with the confessing nightmares behind every love story.
Your friends are the ones you can rely on, from boosting the confidence to giving the best relationship advice. So, before spinning the thoughts around your mind. Ask your friends to shout out all the things they love about you. Their friendly, caring thoughts give you the courage to put the best of you in front of your crush. Just remember to stay calm and confident – your goal is to confess your feelings and not tear yourself down.
2. Don’t overthink the situations- just go with the flow
The more you rush for the things, the harder it becomes to get. Though overthinking is good, but don’t overthink those situations which are not in your hands. Possibilities are it might go wrong. Later, you will be left with saying, why I did that? What should I do now? How to resolve things soon? And more.
Hence, the best way to deal with the confession overthinking process is to just go with the flow of nature – “your world isn’t going to collapse, and the sky isn’t going to fall.”
Going with the flow gives your inner self the real courage and the best boost – and there’s nothing wrong with that.
3. Be very understandable
There was a sweet guy who shared office space with me, so one day, I finally took the courage to ask him out for a drink, and when I bumped him around the cafeteria, I hold my breathe and articulate those words. He left with saying, I”ll let you know. Nodding for hours and hours, I finally got a text message saying – Sorry, I can’t make it, you better ask someone.
On that day, I decided that no matter whatsoever the situation will be, just upfront your feelings, straightforward. Otherwise, time passes by. Make sure not to use scary words like “Date” and “Relationship” at the first meet.
4. Let the words do their magic
Putting the right words at the right time is very important. It’s called an act of kindness. If you are going to compliment your crush, be very intelligent because you might don’t know their choices and don’t want to hurt their feelings.
Instead of saying this -“I have no idea if you have an interest, but I wanted to put it out there.”
Try this: “If you have interest in me, I’d like to take you out for drinks sometime.” It gives your crush a level of comfort.
Creating a conversation like this shows your crush that you’re respectful of their feelings, even if those feelings don’t match yours.
5. Let your Chemistry Fizzle out
Most of the potential love stories don’t begin because the partners are shy; just they never try to express their feelings. Instead of scrolling your crush profile, take the stand and let the beautiful moments fizzle out.
Wrapping it up!
Regretting later is better than doing the things today. Stop procrastination. Take your phone and ask your crush today for drinks or dinner. Chances are your crush, too, wants to confess.
When life gives you a lemon, make lemonade every day.