How to Increase Intimacy In Your Relationship

How to Increase Intimacy In Your Relationship

Love & Sex

Relationships can have a great impact on your mental and physical well-being. If you are unhappy in your relationship, it can lead to many negative outcomes such as sadness, loss of appetite, depression, and more. That’s why it’s crucial to make sure the relationship you’re in is healthy for both you and your partner. 

Intimacy plays a significant role in a person’s relationship, and loss of connection with your significant other can feel like the tipping point.

Lack of intimacy can stem from numerous things, but regardless of the cause, here are some tips to help bring you closer to your partner and increase happiness in your relationship.

1. Have A Date Night

How to Increase Intimacy In Your Relationship

Whether you’ve been together for three years or fifteen, a date night is always a good idea. One of the many reasons couples get into arguments is the lack of attention or time dedicated to the relationship. Date nights are the perfect way to set aside some time exclusively for you and your partner to reconnect.

The time and energy you put into date night show your partner that you are seriously making an effort to strengthen the relationship. Use this time to reminisce about things you’ve done together or when you were the happiest couple.

Doing this will create a more intimate bond that only the two of you can have with each other and leave you feeling motivated to create more moments similar to those of your past.

A date night can either be in the comfort of your home or somewhere outdoors. As a partner, it’s up to you to brainstorm date night ideas that will be the best for your relationship.

For example, if your significant other often complain about not going out enough, then a date at a nice, upscale restaurant may be the best option. However, if your significant other is more of a homebody, something like a movie night indoors would be perfect.

If you want to keep things simple, recommend a spa date at home where you take turns pampering each other. This small effort will remind your partner how much you care, and all you will need is an at-home spa kit to get things started.

Whatever the date is, make sure you are both engaged by turning your cell phones off for the night to prevent any distractions. The purpose of the date is to bring you two closer by facilitating conversation and keeping the fun and excitement alive in your relationship.

2. Embrace Having Sex

How to Increase Intimacy In Your Relationship

Being in a long term relationship means that sometimes things can go a little stale, especially your sex life. It’s easy to put off sex when you have kids, personal issues, and other obligations that take up most of your time. Sometimes at the end of the day, all you want to do is skip out on sex and just go to sleep.

That’s alright from time to time but eventually can take a toll on your relationship. Sex can have many benefits and plays a significant role in most relationships. Sexual intercourse can bring you and your partner together physically, as well as mentally. The closeness and intimacy that is experienced while being intimate can make people feel happier and strengthen their emotional bond with one another. Also, don’t be afraid to spice things up, because sometimes being adventurous in the bedroom can bring much-needed passion back into the relationship.

Look out for things that can stand in the way of your physical intimacy. A lot of problems can occur in the bedroom that can affect sex for you and your significant other. For example, for many women producing enough natural lubrication happens too slowly, making intercourse painful. Avoid that by breaking out the lube right away so you can focus on everything your partner has to offer. Men can also experience issues in the bedroom.

As much as 50% of men will experience some form of mild to severe erectile dysfunction after 40 years old. Whether it be because of alcohol or stress, erectile dysfunction is never a pleasant experience. You can prevent ED by making healthier lifestyle choices like drinking less alcohol or using different ED treatments to maintain your erection long enough to have a pleasurable time with your partner.

3. Talk To Each Other

How to Increase Intimacy In Your Relationship

Seems simple right? Well, you’d be surprised how many couples don’t engage in proper conversations with each other. When the newness of a relationship or “honeymoon phase” wears off, couples’ conversations can become stiff. Since you believe you know your partner well enough, the “how was your day” and “how are you feeling” tends to lessen. Comfortable silence becomes the new normal, and you may not even recognize it.

Make it a point to talk to your significant other about more than who’s going to later pick up the milk. Knowing their thoughts and feelings on a day to day basis will only help to improve the intimacy in your relationship.

Lack of communication tends to create a divide between couples that can easily grow if it’s not taken care of sooner rather than later.

Again, getting personal time to talk to your spouse can be a little difficult if you have a lot of distractions or if you’re angry at one another. If this is your situation, consider going on a couples retreat to a romantic destination.

Traveling and experiencing a new, beautiful place with your partner is a great way to create new memories and improve your relationship.

Since it’s just the two of you together in a new place, your communication is going to be better as there are fewer distractions to get in the way of making conversation and connecting.

Utilize this time away from your responsibilities to have a great time with your partner as well as create intimacy so strong that it’s better than what you had during the “honeymoon phase.”