Nobody likes the feeling of being used by another person. And, sometimes moving on from the feeling of being used is even harder than an actual breakup. But, you can get over it, and you will.
I am pretty sure if you are reading this article; you are probably hurting and looking for tips to get over the feeling of being used.
I was in my mid-20s, quite younger to understand the things. I was in a genuinely healthy relationship. It was two years of a beautiful relationship, and the thought of getting separated and used never came to my mind. But, who knows when things fall apart. Gradually, things changed; my man behaved differently. When he needed me, he called; and slowly, this behaviour became his habit.
And after some fights and melodrama, we called it off. Though love was there, once the guy gets addicted to using other people, there is no point to continue in that relationship. No matter how deep the love is. Trust me.
It took a long time to get overall. But I was successful and recharged my energy with positive vibes.
Getting used by someone whom you trusted the most is miserable. Especially when you had a real feeling for them. But when someone uses you, was it real? I mean, yes, your emotions were real, but the situation wasn’t genuine. So, of course, it stings.
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How to get over a guy who used you?
I know, it is a harsh little girl, but the alarm has rung to take control of your life in your hands. No time to look back and to think – why he did that? Why am I not good enough and so on. Basically, time is giving you a chance to get up on your feet and move forward.
So, take advantage.
I’m not saying the changes will happen overnight, but you should get ready to see a new you. And the very first thing which you have to do is to stop worrying about the guy. He’ll be fine, so don’t worry. Eventually, karma will smile back at him. So, let’s get over him, okay?
Congratulations! You have taken the first step. Big applause to you, let’s move forward. Shall we?
If you want to know the tips to get over the guy who used you, you’ve come to the right place. It’s time to leave him in the past and move on. Can I get an amen?
Don’t let the overthinking killing you:
See, what happened, has happened. You can’t go back in the past to change the things, so let it go. Don’t be a victim of your thoughts. You met a guy, and he used you.
Maybe you have something special which he was looking for a long time. You should feel proud that you helped someone in growing up. Also, it doesn’t mean you will never find a new guy who loves you. You will.
Being too kind is not bad:
After getting used, it’s normal to assume you’re too generous. But, before you turn jaded, kindness isn’t a weakness, girl. It’s good you are a kind, lovable and caring person. The world needs more of it. So, continue being kind.
Feel proud. You have what they wanted:
Believe it, boyfriends are like a kangaroo, till the time they don’t get all the things which they wanted in their partner they keep hopping. So, you should feel proud that you helped a guy who’s lacking in knowledge, motivation & intelligence. You have invested your time, love, and patience in nurturing a kid. You have it all; you should be proud of yourself.
Make some distance:
Wake up! If that guy still wants to be in touch with you, and with knowing he will use you again. You cannot, under any circumstance, continue to see him. Delete his number, flush his memories, and cut an all sort of contact with him. Heal and move on. You will not be friends with this guy now; it’s done. He used you. Even if you like him, he doesn’t respect you. So, time to distance yourself from him.
Time to get with friends:
You detach yourself from him for your goodwill. And it’s time to attach yourself with friends and family for your happiness. All you need some emotional support and love. Go to shopping, hang out at the beach, get some coffee, and everything will be fine. Spend most of your time with friends and family. You will feel good.
Learn what have you experienced:
In the end, you have learned something about your relationship. Whether or not that guy used you, there was something between two of you. Try to look at the relationship in a different light; maybe you found a glimpse of happy moments of yours. Every relationship taught you something. So, think what did this relationship taught you? It may not have been a great ending, but you learned something new.
Go into the next relationship mindful:
This is not the end. Down the road, a new relationship is waiting for you, with open arms. But, this time, be slow and easy. Use what you have learned from your relationship and apply it to a new relationship. Be mindful when entering a relationship. How are you feeling? How does he make you feel? Do you see any red flags?
Understanding what’s important to keep the relationship going is essential. Don’t act like a stupid and stop being a kid in a relationship. If you’re not ready or feeling uncomfortable in a relationship, let it go. Don’t exaggerate the things and don’t make someone uses you. Take your time, be calm, and always remember the lessons of a past relationship.