Moving-in with your partner is seemingly the most beautiful thing happening to your relationship. You have finally found the person with whom you can plan for the future and ready for the endless drive. When you seriously love someone, there is nothing wrong with moving in, together, until you both are travelling on the same pages of life – understanding to respect each value. Wait. What? We are talking more than communication. Authentic, healthy discussion is key to a happy relationship, but when you are taking your relationship to the next level, there are specific personal and essential conversations need to be done with the partner. And, there’s nothing wrong with that.
No matter how much you love and trust your partner, it’s very crucial to have a more in-depth conversation with them despite putting the things off the table just because they’re uncomfortable, may not always be a good idea. You’re planning your glorious future together, so it’s essential to know a lot about what you’re getting into, and this includes […] awkward things.
Here, Morning Lazziness presents you some outward questions to ask your partner before committing them for long-term.
Questions About How You” ll Communicate
Doesn’t matter how picture perfects your relationship is, problem, emergencies occur, and that depends on how you guys will communicate and resolve the things without getting stress.
Note it: Problems do not come with knocking on the door, they come with no invitation and with a smiley face we have to have welcomed them.
Having a deep-down problem-solving conversation at that point is better rather than spending the potential nights on the couch.
Few simple questions to must include:
- How do you prefer to resolve conflict?
- How should we handle when the other gets angry?
- Can we agree to not “fight dirty” when we argue?
- What is very triggering for you in an argument?
- How can I avoid doing this?
Financial Questions To Ask
Imagine the situation – you’re having a romantic dinner at a beautiful restaurant. And the time bill comes up you stared each other with the same question – Who will pay the bill?
Now that’s something awkward. So, before moving in or committing to your partner here are the few financial questions on which you both must talk about? This is the point when you have to be honest.
- Will the rent spill and utilities 50/50?
- Will both pay the bills and managing finances?
- Do we have a joint account, or will different bills come out of your accounts?
- Who will keep the living space if of a breakup?
- Will the other partner expected to help subsidise moving costs if of a breakup?
- Will be both contributes equally to home expenses like furniture, repairs, and maintenance, or cleaning services.
Do I have a separate savings account or “f*ck off fund” if I need to move out?
Other nitty-gritty money chats to have:
- Do you have student loans?
- Credit card debt?
- What is your credit score?
- How much do you have in savings?
- What are your financial goals?
These questions are the foundation of your happy marriage and life long relationship. It’s not a must manage money together and have a joint checking account when you’re “just living together”. But, at a minimum, it’s crucial to know whether your partner is financially stable and ready to pay the debt.
Sit together and make a new budget
New livings come up with new arrangements and expenses.
There was a time when one toilet paper lasts for months, but once you live together either, it would last for 15 days or fewer. So, if you both are open, communicate well then there’s no doubt in creating a new budget list which keeps track of all your expenses. If you’re merging finances, it’s essential to adjust your new costs and spending.
Questions about Health Problems
It’s subjective, to talk about the mental and physical genetic problems with your better half, in advance.
As you are getting more and more severe for each other and have already taken the profound step, it’s vital to know – whether your partner is suffering from any illness or disease?
Questions about “Me Time” or “Alone time”?
True, introverts and extroverts make the perfect, beautiful relationship. So, if your partner needs some alone time to recharge or build-up, you must respect their decision and give them a valuable space for your long-term potential.
First, thing first, don’t feel awkward with having this conversation with your partner; it’s healthy and surely avoids disconnection and intense conflict.
Question about Non-Negotiable Kinks
It’s never late to understand each other sexual preference and interests, though you have an entire life to discover or talk about it; yet there are undoubtedly important questions which deserve an early bid.
It may be strange to start this conversation but trust us it’s essential.