Is your boyfriend ignoring you for a while? Don’t feel regretful or consider it as the end of the road to a beautiful relationship. Further, fret is not going to gain you something apart from shedding tears. Hence, take a deep breath to calm your mind and ponder the situation differently.
Maybe the time is not with you and asking you to put extra effort into your relationship to glam up the things. Yes, you got that right; you can turn things around for the better!
You are energetic and elegant, you’re worthy of being loved and respected, and your importance should not be overlooked by anyone, certainly not by your boyfriend! Not getting the importance you used to get from him, can be one of the most painful experiences.
The good news is, there are several ways in which you can regain your importance in your boyfriend’s heart and mind.
Before moving on to explaining “how to make your boyfriend realize your importance,” you must first be aware of the signs that you are being ignored.
Some vital signs you’re being ignored as his girlfriend:
- He ignores your texts and calls and often doesn’t apologize for doing so.
- He doesn’t listen to you and often turns down your requests.
- He has stopped greeting you, especially during special events.
- He has stopped appreciating the value of your time and efforts.
- He manipulates you to the extent you get teary.
The above are just some of the signs indicating your boyfriend has stopped seeing your importance as his girlfriend. There can be a lot more. The bottom line is, you know when you’re being ignored, and you want it to stop and your relationship revived!
How To Make Your Boyfriend Realize Your Importance?
Breaking up with the boyfriend is not the solution. Especially when you love him like you always did. Love is there, and now your aim is to get the respect and attention that you deserve from him.
Here are some ways in which to can understand the importance you deserve from your boyfriend, as his partner, and as a woman:
1. Know your self-worth
As a first step rather than a way, you need to believe in how special you are and confidently know that you deserve to be loved, cared for, and valued by your boyfriend. Start by appreciating yourself. You are incredible in every way possible. Your boyfriend has no right to make you feel you’re not important. Remember, he is lucky to have you as his girlfriend, so he should cherish you just as how you adore him.
2. Express your feelings
Directly and openly communicate your true feelings. Be honest and tell him specifically what you’re experiencing and how that’s affecting the relationship. Positively express your points so that he understands you want to build the relationship strong rather than part ways. Eventually, show him where he lacks and allows him to make it up to you. If he genuinely loves you, he will listen to you and mend his ways to satisfy you.
3. Make him aware that you choose him, yet you’re not restricted to him as a partner
Sadly, most men will start to take their partner for granted; the moment they start believing she has no other options. He’ll be under the impression that you need him more than he needs you. That’s why it helps to let him know that you’re there with him by choice rather than desperation. So, how do you achieve this? It’s simple. Just enjoy yourself and be sociable! Dress up to look great for other people (men and women). By doing this, you are showing him and others that you’re not merely an item of a man’s possession that he shows off about.
This means standing up for yourself, valuing yourself, and being ambitious because it feels good to do things on your own terms. You’re expressly showing him he’s not doing you any favours. Also, show him that you can still do the things you love doing, without his company, but alone or with other friends – travelling, going to work, eating, and even watch movies. This is sure to make him realize how independent and essential you are.
4. Do less for him than you did before
He might be getting used to the conveniences you’ve been granting him. You might have become more of a chef, massage therapist, or a personal assistant to him rather than a lovebird and respected and valued girlfriend. Always being the one to give in and apologize during an argument, even when it is not your fault, are things you must limit (not stop) doing for him now. Overdoing all these things has blinded him in seeing how important your role is in his life. So do them just enough for him to realize your importance.
5. Moderate your tolerance and learn how to say No!
How will he ever know what he’s doing wrong if you’re too tolerant of the things he does? Moreover, if he thinks he has full control over you and everything else, it will be natural for him to stop seeing your importance. It’s a well-known fact that women don’t like to be with men who are pushovers. Similarly, men love it if the woman in their arms is not one either. In fact, men are attracted by women who know when to put their foot down and say no. This makes a man want his lady more, yet he will also have high regard and respect for her as a reliable individual.
6. Follow your passions, hone your talents, and achieve great lengths personally and professionally
By achieving something great, you are showing yourself and others that you are incredibly purposeful in this life. So, really, you’re doing this for yourself. You can work hard and prove your worth in a lucrative career or by being part of a charity organization close to your heart. Your commitment and devotion to helping yourself and society make you essential. Nowadays, opportunities are aplenty. Nothing can stop a woman from achieving what only men previously had the advantage of pursuing. These attributes of achievement and wanting to do something with your life will make him realize you’re not just giving him a hard time; you really are worth more than gold.
Besides the above points, there are other, more obvious ways to entice your boyfriend towards you and make him realize your importance. Other tips to make him know you’re unique and spruce up your love life:
- Walk, talk, and dress like a diva
- Take charge by asking him out for a date once in a while
- Learn a dance move, or even pole dancing
- Stop calling him those mushy names.
- Put on a stellar performance in bed.
- Support him and massage his ego
To sum it all up, be confident, independent, and believe in reviving your relationship through the above methods. Do not give up and let go smoothly. Every relationship requires constant mutual effort to maintain itself. However, if even after trying everything mentioned, he still doesn’t respect you and realize your importance, then you know what to do.