Wait! What? Am I Clingy? That’s not possible.
Just like girls don’t like clingy guys, guys too don’t like clingy girls!
Is your partner evading meeting you by giving some weird reasons? Does it seem like he is running away from you?
There comes a time in a relationship when guys are ready to climb cliffs to get some personal space and do you know what makes them do this? It’s all your clingy behavior.
So if you’ve just started the relationship and the urge to talk or meet him is always extraordinary on your side, then dear, it’s a clear sign you have become a genuine ‘stage five-clinger.’
Even if you know clingers are to be avoided, how can you be so sure you’re not doing it? If you’re skeptical of whether you’re the guilty party, I am here to shed some light on the situation.
What is being in a clingy relationship?
A clingy relationship sounds crazy and confusing. It’s more like, you are sailing a boat without knowing the destination.
A clingy relationship is when your girlfriend crosses all limits of possessiveness. She wants a relationship where it’s just the two of you, and no room for your friends, family, or colleagues. In short, shutting the doors of your life.
But, have you ever wondered what makes a woman so clingy and possessive? Is every woman in relationships clingy and needy? The sad part is even women are not aware of the negative effects of their actions and probably do not think they are doing anything wrong. They continually feel the urge to either talk to their partner or meet up with them. And, when the partner doesn’t pick up their call, they become possessive and aggressive. Staying apart from partners even for a few hours makes them psychotic and crazy. These are the signs of a needy girlfriend.
There are plenty of reasons behind being clingy, one of them can be the excitement of a relationship or the fear of a potential heartbreak. The fear of her boyfriend cheating on her makes her annoyed and that’s the reason she forces herself into her boyfriend’s life to constantly be a part of it. But this results in making her look like the sticky girlfriend, which her boyfriend wants to avoid.
10 Signs You Are A Clingy Girlfriend
So, if you don’t want to be called a clingy girlfriend, notice these signs in your behavior and be the girlfriend your boyfriend actually wants to spend time with.
1. You freak out when you don’t get to hear back:
At the beginning of a relationship, your partner used to respond to your messages or calls within time. Now, things have flipped, he is taking -a way too long to respond to your messages, and that drives you crazy. From assuming the worst things to being anxious, your relationship has come closer to the expiration date.
We know these long-awaited unattentive calls and unanswered messages are nerve-wracking in a relationship. But don’t let yourself get caught up in the “what ifs” of it all.
Think of another positive side, maybe he just got stuck in some important work or is planning a surprise date night.
2. You go mad when he goes out without you:
Every relationship requires time. You don’t have to be upset or sad when your guy is hanging out with his friends. Apart from being clingy and constantly eyeing on him, you should enjoy some ‘me-time.’ Go to the salon, meet your girlfriends, join a Zumba class, or do anything that interests you. And, watching your relationship is wondrous.
3. You obsess on when your partner texts/call you back:
It’s normal to imagine when he is going to text or call me back, but things become problematic when it turns into a full-fledged obsession. According to Psychology Today, ladies who spend most of the time thinking about their partners lead themselves to miss out on other things, including other important relationships.
If you’re noticing such a pattern daily, think and take a step back. Realize what you are doing. You have other significant priorities in life too.
4. You only make time for him:
If you’re socially isolating yourself from him, then it’s not a great thing. Your world is not around him, and probably he has put no boundaries around you. Just because you love him doesn’t mean you disappear and cut yourself from social media. What if you and your partner fight? Who will you talk to? You schedule a time for your partner, so make sure to do the same with the other people you care about.
5. You have lost your own interests:
Are you only doing the things that interest your partner, then seriously you are way too clingy. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you just stop doing the things that you adore to do, be it making pottery or anything; a healthy relationship never asks one partner to stop pursuing their passions. While it’s important to get some interests to overlap, you shouldn’t lose who you are.
6. You analyze their social media round-the-clock:
Often stalking your partner on Instagram is common; we all do it, but things become uncanny when your sent messages get read, and you don’t see the ‘typing’ sign there. Immediately, you’re analyzing every detail of what you have said.
Sounds familiar? We all have stalked our partners on social media, but one should never over-analyze it. Don’t be so desperate to know what your partner is doing, where he is, and all? Give some personal space and never mix social media with your relationship. It could signal some serious trust issues. This behavior is not healthy.
7. You ask too many prying questions:
What if your partner is not changing their relationship status on Facebook and not interested in uploading both of your pictures on Instagram? You shouldn’t get angry and insist on behaving like a clingy person, think about taking your relationship to the next level. Your partner is much more, enjoying sweet moments with you. He just doesn’t want to let the entire world know how much he loves you; he wants you to know.
8. You keep asking them to meet his family:
Your man loves you and you too, and you are visualizing starting a family with him and keep wanting him to meet his family. To be honest, it’s not bad. Definitely, you want to know his family; after all, you are in a serious relationship, and what could be a better way to know your guy through the eyes of his parents, brothers, and sisters.
But, if you keep pressuring or poking him every other day, that when you are taking me to meet your parents, and he keeps on ignoring to answer your question; you are building a wall in your relationship. Trust him, don’t badger him and let the process take the time it needs.
9. You are possessive:
It’s good to care about your boyfriend. But, when that love and affection turn into possessiveness, it becomes doom for the relationship.
Sweet-possessiveness is fine, but over-possessiveness destroys the relationship. No boyfriend can tolerate when their girlfriend starts treating them like their owned property- such signs show you are an overrated clingy girlfriend.
10. You get jealous when your boyfriend hang out with his friends:
Yes, he has a life with you. Repeat this; he has friends, he has the right to enjoy his life and can make plans with his friends, without telling you.
But, if his enjoyment with his friends makes you jealous, then you are nothing but a sticky girlfriend, and you could end up being his nightmare. At such times, you can even try to sabotage his plans or emotionally manipulate him, not to go out with your friends. Most of the time, guys smell this creepy behavior of their girlfriend, and without thinking much, they dump them.
How to stop being a clingy girlfriend?
If you are noticing any of these above-given clingy signs in your behavior, then it’s time to take a step.
- Stop texting your partner for a while, make him call you first sometimes too.
- Give some space to your man. Stop making the effort.
- Don’t call or post anything emotional on social media that shows that you are missing him badly.
- Start doing things for yourself. Work on your own life first.
- Stay mysterious. Make him want to unravel your secrets.
- Make him crave for you more.
If you could relate to any five points, then it’s time you do something about it before your boyfriend plans to dump you. No relationship can work with this behavior of yours. And, getting dumped for being too clingy isn’t something any girl wants to hear.