Summer is in full swing, and you probably have at least one beach date. If it so happens that it’s the first date, it is important to leave a good impression. Either way, we all want to amaze the person we are going out with. If you are having trouble deciding on what to wear, for your first beach date, maybe you will find some ideas and inspiration in this text.

Flirty and feminine sundress

If you are the type of girl who enjoys her feminine side and likes to be a little flirty on dates, then a sundress may be the right option for you. They are comfortable, light, and very cute. A plus about these dresses is that you can wear them with sneakers or sandals appropriate for the beach since heels are out of the question. Depending on your style, you can choose a maxi dress with floral print for a true beach look, or a white, lace mini one if what you like more is that boho vibe. Whatever you choose, the best option is to go with natural make-up, and a messy bun since chances are it’s going to be warm.

Casual and comfortable jeans and bikini combo

Your beach date can be an extension of a fun day at the beach. If you don’t want to wear extra clothes, there are ways you can turn your regular beach outfit into a date outfit. You can always opt for triangle bikinis, which you can wear with jeans shorts, and also as bathing suits, which makes them perfect for this opportunity. If you move your date from the beach to a restaurant, you can just get a cute cover-up that you can tie around your waist, and you will look amazing. Lace or see-through materials are great options that would go great with any type of bikini. You will look casual yet attractive, and you will definitely feel comfortable. You can pair this with big sunglasses, and flat, strappy sandals. A high ponytail would look great with this outfit and would be comfortable for the heath.

Chick and trendy denim skirts

If you want to look stylish for your date, you can achieve that even with a beach look. A high waisted denim skirt and a crop top will do just that. You can choose a loose crop top in a bright or even neon color to make the look a bit more casual, or wear a tighter crop top in nude or white color for a bit more elegant look. If trends are important to you, colorful, striped button-down crop tops are also an option. They look retro and are very much popular this summer. Espadrille flats or even white sneakers will complete this look, together with a high bun and big hoop earrings.

Beach elegant and fluttery jumpsuit

Jumpsuits and rompers are also a great date outfit. The best choice for a romper is a light, breathable material such as linen, rayon, or silk. They will softly follow your curves, look very stylish and beautiful and still be comfortable. Flower designs are popular with this piece too, although you can choose different designs, like pastel colours, or even striped pattern which will create that navy look and look super cute. Since jumpsuits are a more elegant beach outfit, you can leave it for a night beach date. Loose waves are the perfect hairstyle, and you can match everything with flat sandals and sparkly stud earrings.

Wrapping it up!

Beach is one of the best places for a perfect first date. You know you are going to be comfortable and that it is going to be fun. One more plus is that you don’t have to worry about cocktail dresses and formal clothes since the beach looks are more casual and easier to achieve. Hopefully, these few tips were able to help you find a beach date outfit you will love.

After we discover an affair we are set on a roller coaster of emotions, one aspect of this process is dealing with triggers. Triggers are songs, objects, words, smells… that bring up details or thoughts about their affair. Triggers make us feel crazy and pull us down into the pain we do not want to live in. Why does this happen? Here is a clip from After the Affair discussing just why this happens. 

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A Video (Why Do Triggers And Flashbacks Happen After Discovering An Affair?) by Melissa Davis – A Relationship Counselor

Ladies, beware of the online dating scene. As there are some traps that men set that can harm your life. You need to know how to avoid those. While you don’t want to be overcautious, you do want to be careful.

Here are some tips that can help protect you from falling into the man’s traps that are trouble online.

Tip One

Tip one is to watch for respect. Remember, when your respected elder told you that “people that care about you will respect you?” Remember that as tip one. If the man that you email and chat with is ever disrespectful, immediately report it to the site and never contact him again. Block him and avoid any further issues. That way, you will remain safe. If the site fails to recognize abusive behaviour, then cancel your subscription and find a better site. Don’t fall prey to the public online community of thieves and cons that use gaslighting to pressure you into cooperation.

Tip Two

Whatever you do, do not fall for the trap that men that are trouble set for you: “you need to prove that you are real.” This is a scam that I fell for at the hands of a man that ended up being a person that most would normally think very highly of. It turned out that he was a con artist of the worst sort.

At his hands, I suffered from – verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and extortion. When I finally rid my life of the man, he continued to use gaslighting to try still to ruin my life. I should never have allowed any further contact from him after the first insult that I didn’t even recognize.

If you ask yourself how that could happen, or think that it couldn’t happen to you, then think again. It can and will if you don’t have your guard up. My former boyfriend demanded my social security number, license number, and a view of it to “prove” who I was. If I had known that a person could abuse his power, I wouldn’t have trusted him ever. He said, “You never know who a person is online.” Boy, it sure is ironic in the aftermath. When you grow up protected, you might not catch this one. Know it before you start to date online.

Tip Three

Watch for rude or flippant comments while you are chatting through the site. Direct “jokes” about women are one of the first signs of an abusive person. Some-warning signs would be like this. Say you and the man are emailing back and forth. The discussion of their last relationship comes up, or how do they prepare the gifts of Valentine’s Day for their last girlfriends.

Make sure to ask the guy about that before you go out. This is why: The man might say that his last girlfriend or wife was a nut job. While this might be a fact, it doesn’t speak well of a person to say that on the first discussion of the matter. Think about it. This is the man’s first chance to put his best foot forward. In the next step, he will drop the kind act and show his true colors. If a guy is saying that his former girlfriend or wife was a nut job now, what is he going to say later when his guard is down?

Tip Four

Never give your phone number or private email to these guys. Believe me, that is a mistake. If the guy is trouble, he now has the information that he needs to harm your online life and worse. I fell for this one too. That same man is still using gaslighting with my previous email and information to harass me. Granted, he was a severely convicted sadist, but it is always best to take precautions.

Many dating sites will even tell you to be careful with this. I gave my email to the guy because I figured it was harmless. Trust me when I say that the man who is in trouble will use anything that he can to get revenge. Even if you are simply saying “no,” the man that is trouble will not respect this. Boundaries do not exist with these men. They are criminal in nature and use white-collar crimes to get revenge against you. To avoid the man who is trouble by keeping your phone and email hidden and private, you can be sure that there is less risk. There is a time to share that information but follow these tips first to protect yourself before you trust that online man. Note also, that lie detector tests can be quickly passed by any pathological liar. Nothing can predict a person better than the warnings here.

Tip Five

Don’t be so forthcoming and agreeable. When it comes time to meet, choose some reason that causes the man to have to give a bit. See how he handles it via email on the site. If he is demanding and insulting, then you know that it is best to avoid him. Men that are trouble cannot go with the flow. Respect is the name of the game, and he is failing to show it to you. Take that as a gift of knowledge and learn from my previous experiences with these types of men. If you find that he is failing this point, then politely tell him that you feel that you are not right for each other. These men that are trouble and abusive to women have typically had an abusive mother in the past. Sometimes, it’s just that they are socially unable to cope and need some help, but that is not your problem to solve. If you are empathetic at all, be very cautious. These types of men can be really lethal in person. Avoid that now before it is too late. Let the professionals explain to these men why “they can’t get a date, or the women never want to meet.”

Tip Six

If you have reached the point where you have exchanged information and have decided to meet, then make sure that you meet in a very public place and park your car where he can not see it. Your license plate on your vehicle, especially if you date a crafty person as I did, can give a lot of information about your life. Most people cannot find this information, but people who use gaslighting as a form of control over their victims can get this information. Just take it from me that you need to take this precaution first until you get to know the guy. Also, make sure not to reveal your home address until much later. Meet in person and drive yourself to have your first dates. Get to know the guy first before giving him any of that information. Remember ladies; it is none of his business. Don’t fall for their attempts at the violation of your privacy. Even if you want a fling, keep it distant until you know the person can be trusted.

Tip Seven

Any violation means stop. If you say no, then he needs to respect it. If at any time, your date becomes insulting or abusive, then stop the conversation like this. Ask the person if they are saying what you think they said that is offensive and potentially a form of verbal assault. Once they clarify that they meant the abusive language, then calmly excuse your self and walk away. If that happens while you are online, then politely explain why you are cutting off the contact. Then block them and report the behaviour. Any site worth their money is going to take accountability for their client’s response at some level.

Last words!

Ladies, remember that you deserve to be treated with respect. If the man is disrespectful now, then what will he do later when he is letting his true self come out? Learn from my experience and beware of the online dating scene by following these seven tips or traps to avoid when dating online.

Breakups are heartbreaking and confusing. No matter how many you’ve gone through (1 or 7), every breakup teaches you a new lesson and makes you see life from a different perspective. 

When I was in a relationship, many folks preferred to give me love advice, like how to keep the spark alive? What not to react to or how to handle the ugly fights in the relationship and so on…. 

Trust me, falling in love is the most beautiful and romantic thing, but loving yourself above all is the best feeling, which is what I realized after my first breakup. 

The first thing I learned from the breakup, which changed my thought process and made me believe in myself again, is that feeling for someone is temporary, but self-care comes first. And honestly, this thought of analyzing things changed the whole scenario of looking at life. Yes, it’s the best decision I have ever made.

We all deserve to be in the right place after a breakup, and while it might feel like it’s taking forever to move on, you’re doing your best. It made us realize who is important to us and also opened the doors to many successful paths.

1. Say Hello to Social Media:

Do you still stalk your ex? Then, my dear, take a big step – it sounds very outdated, but it’s imperative to block your ex from social media. Not only does it give you significant relief, but it also detaches you from the imaginary world which you have created around you.

Instead of stalking your ex, you should connect with more positive people, make new friends, join yoga classes, do something you always wished for, or anything that gives you immense happiness.

2. Make time for self-pampering:

I know that dealing with a breakup at the initial stage is burdensome. Be strong, and instead of lying in bed all day, take some extra care of yourself. Hit a spa and make sure you are given enough time to exercise to get your happy hormones flowing.

Go out with your girl gang and laugh harder- that’s the best therapy for a breakup.

3. How about trying something new:

Take out time to fulfill your passions. We all have a bucket list which we thought to cross, but by being in a relationship. We might have found it harder or impossible to get it done.

Now you are free, rather than investing your time in eating a tub of ice cream and scrolling through old pictures, do something you always wished for. Something out of the box that gives you another reason to stay happy in life. Be it a vacation with family, friends, or a new activity. Take your chapter to a new level and embrace your decisions. You can thank me later.

4. Throw yourself in work and career:

The end of a breakup doesn’t mean you have to end or cut yourself from your professional life. I would say give your work life a fantastic throwback. Attend more empowering events, talk to inspiring writers, read more, and follow your ambition. Do what you’re passionate about.

5. Start the dating game again:

Well, this would be the scariest part of the post-breakup revolution. You had recently gone through a breakup, and getting involved in a relationship still isn’t something you may want. 

Initially, you would find it uncomfortable, but as soon you meet new people and go out for coffee, you’ll feel good and get to know more interesting people who see life from a different perspective and have crazy ambitions in their lives.

It starts as a fire. Someone touches you in more ways than one. Your physical intimacy has to lead you to satisfying encounter, and you would love to go through this again. You make it possible; it sparks off, and you continue from where you last left. And this is as great, greater cause now you have dropped off your guards. You have reached a place where your sensuality is out there in the offer and getting you all that you desired and or possibly more than you imagined.

You don’t want this to fade ever. Each time you meet you sizzle and frizzle together. Each time it takes your intimacy to greater heights.

Until one day right in between the act a phone call rings. Your lover hurriedly wraps up ​​​and leave to attend to the pressing issue. On the surface, you may be okay with it, but somewhere deep down you know you are feeling insecure. Your next planned meet is fewer frizzling. Not because you aren’t getting what you want, but this time you want more. More out of a relationship. Heck! you want a ‘relationship.’

Sex is all there is a lust relationship:

​From sizzling sex to frizzling bodies to buzzing emotions! This is alarming. Should be. No one has questioned your morals. This is not what someone set you to answer. But what you must ask yourself – would you be happy throwing away everything that made you happy before you sensed the need to belong? ​And what if you do get into a partial relationship, who are you receiving with your arrangements?

Can you after that you won’t cross these newly formed boundaries and not ask for anything more, again?

​It scares you off your rising and contradicting emotions-are you not? ​If you are, then get ready. Be prepared in your mind. If not right after your sizzling first few encounters then eventually, that this is all that you want, and this is all that you opt for. This lustful relationship is all that you will get. You are not tying any strings and not even proposing to offer any. 

If you’re reading this article, you are more likely new to anal sex- someone who doesn’t know what anal or butt sex feels like and would like to make the most of it without getting hurt. The truth is something you want to hear first: anal or butt sex is painful, and there is no way around that.

Anal sex is much like smoking. If you want to make your butt sex pleasurable, vanish uneasy feelings and negative thoughts from your mind.

What does anal sex feel like?

Anal or Butt sex is violating. You might wonder why men want to have anal sex over vaginal sex? Though both sex positions add excitement and give unbeatable pleasure, anal feels more raw, hurtful, and unemotional.

When a man desire to have butt sex, it feels as if he not only wants to violate a woman, but he is also okay with hurting her. Fraught with anxiety and fear, butt sex is something that a woman fantasizes about doing.

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When a woman has anal sex, the sensation is intense. Even the unbearable pain gives the maximum level of satisfaction. Pressing up against the clitoris from the inside out, if butt sex is done with serenity, an intense orgasm gives ultimate pleasure.

1. Use lots and lots of lubes: 

Remember, lube is your friend in butt sex. Your anus is not created for sex. Also, it’s not self-lubricated like the vagina. So, if you want butt sex to go smoothly without damaging the anal tissue, use lots and lots of lubes.

2. Go slowly and gently:

See you will confront butt sex the first time, so it’s okay if you move patiently. Anal sex is very intense and probably overwhelming. When we say slowly and gently, we mean inch by inch. Give time to your partner to adjust. Try different sex positions to find the comfortable one for you. With this, your partner will ensure that you won’t get hurt and get to experience a more profound sensation.

3. Start with sex toys:

Sex toys are bliss for butt sex. By using butt plugs that are specially designed for anal stimulation, you get the idea that will you be able to hold a penis in your anal for a long time or not? Tip: Using butt plugs during foreplay helps a lot.

4. Communication:

Communication is essential in butt sex. If butt sex is hurting you or turns out to differ entirely from what you have expected, you may put a stop to it at any point. Both parties should be comfortable and onboard throughout the entire experience.

5. The first experience with butt sex will not be perfect:

Never assume your first experience with anal or butt sex would be outstanding. It takes several tries to get butt sex best. Don’t do it till the time you and your partner are not comfortable. Wait for the right moment. Be patient. And know that – when you do butt sex at the right time, you will experience an astounding deeper level of stimulation.

If you want to give butt sex a try, communicate with your partner. Your agenda shouldn’t be getting an orgasm at the first go. You should be very careful and physically and mentally ready because anal sex will be dangerous. Bad anal sex can cause damage to your body and can even have severe damage to your relationship. Hence, if you want butt sex to go smoothly, it’s best to adhere to the following rules.

Do you have any sexual fetish? I wonder if all of us nurses have hidden fetishes. A fixation & obsessions can be with anything that drives us crazy and gives our mind the maximum level of sexual satisfaction.

One should understand there is no harm in having a sexual fetish, everyone has, but it’s just that we nurture them within limits. Till the time your sexual fetishes are not threatening your partner, it’s good, but the moment they become an obsession in your life, you’re treating dangerous around.

A sexual fetish is accompanied by certain feelings of guilt or shame. 

What are sexual fetishes?

In a psychological term, a sexual fetish states as an obsession with a non-living object or with a body part. The scientific name applied to sexual fetishes is a paraphilia.

Sexual fetish & obsessions vary from individual to individual. Commonly sexual fetishes fall under three categories: media, form, and animate. 

A fetish that developed for a particular material like leather, silk, rubber lies in the first category that is ‘media.’ But with ‘form’ fetish, the fixation gets developed with women high-heel boots, lingerie & stilettos. Where in ‘animate’ the fetish or fixation gets high with touching or looking at partner body parts such as hairs, feet, buttocks, or breasts.

Even though having a sexual fetish is good as they boost sex drive, it also enhances libido. Moreover, there is a different level of degrees of sexual fetish ranging from mild to extreme.

You all might be heard of BDSM or role-play, but there are some other sexual fetishes down under the carpet.

Let’s talk about the long over-abused & dirty different sexual fetishes that ensure to give terrific sexual pleasure, which we desperately need.

Here are the 15 sexual fetishes & obsessions that are way more common than you’d like to imagine:

Fetishism:

Anything which is in physical contact with your desired partner can sexually arouse you. Be it their clothes, phone, wallet, or any other object that can turn you on seconds!

Katoptronophilia:Source: Scoopwhoop

Intimating in front of the mirrors is what really turns you on!

Trichophilia:

Now this sexual arousal is with partner body parts, like the smell of their hairs, body fragrance, and even playing with their hairs.

Anililagnia:

A sexual fetish in which men are more likely to be attracted to older women and never to someone their own age.

Knismolagnia:

A most common sexual fetish, in which a person becomes sexually aroused just by tickling. Yes, tickling by anyone.

Voyeurism:

Watching other people having sex in real life – can also arouse you.

Pictophilia:

A most common natural sexual fetish. In this case, a person easily gets aroused just by watching porn or pornographic images.

Stigmatophilia:

Now, this sexual arousal happens when you considered someone’s piercing or tattoos very sexy.

Nasolingus:

As the name says: the sexual arousal and pleasure come out with sucking someone’s nose.

Necrophilia:

The sexual arousals happen when you come in contact with dead bodies. As weird as the name sounds.

Psychrophilia:

Well, this sexual arousals of feeling cold generally happen during winter. You sexually aroused while looking at other people who are feeling cold.

Podophilia:

And this sexual fetish is commonly known as foot-fetish. You are getting sexual arousal by sucking someone’s feet, nibbling, licking, touching, and caressing someone’s feet.

Urophilia:

With this fetish, people get sexual pleasure and arousal either by peeing on their partners or enjoy partner peeing on them. The best way to enjoy this fetish is having sex in a tub full of pee.

Swinging:

A different type of sexual fetish which generally seen in married couples. Both partners get sexual pleasure and arousal when intimate with other individuals.

Agalmatophilia:

One of the rarest sexual fetish. Getting sexually aroused just by watching mannequins, teddy bears, or dolls.

Hence, these are the few sexual fetishes which are a way too common and somewhere we all have one favourite of them. 

Having been in a very dysfunctional relationship myself for over four years, I have had a lot of time to analyze the warning signs. More often than not, you don’t even realize that you’re in a dysfunctional relationship until its too late and then getting out of it becomes much more difficult.

You are not in a dysfunctional relationship if you have disagreements and spats once in a while. Arguing is a normal part of a healthy and functioning relationship. Dysfunctional relationships are classified as lacking emotional support or even causing emotional trauma to one or both partners. A healthy relationship should add happiness to your life, not make you stressed.

And the reason you want to know if your relationship is dysfunctional is so you can remedy it or escape it ASAP. Staying in a dysfunctional relationship can not only cause self-esteem issues now, but those can be carried into future relationships as well.

Read on to find out the 7 deadly signs of a dysfunctional relationship.

#1 You never fight:

All healthy relationships require arguments. Everyone’s fighting style is different, but having conflict and confrontation is necessary for a successful relationship. This does not mean you have to yell and scream at your partner but communicating, and even the hard stuff is healthy. Without talking about tense subjects, a relationship becomes surface level and can grow angry and resentful.

When couples don’t talk they hold things in and can become passive-aggressive with their anger rather than communicating their feelings. Without fighting or sharing the hard stuff, there is no compromise, no honesty, and a lot of buried animosity. When a relationship looks good from the outside, there is most likely something brewing deep down. Biting your tongue when something less than happy arises is one deadly sign of a dysfunctional relationship.

#2 You feel used:

This can be a hard sign to spot. We often think that in a relationship we should put our partner. First, it is just part of being in a relationship. That, however, is not true. Sure, doing things for your partner is nice, but only if it goes both ways. If you find you are cancelling plans for your partner, but they just see you when it is convenient, that relationship is one-sided.

You and your partner should be putting in equal amounts of effort in. You should be able to take time for yourself and feel good about doing things for your partner, not taken advantage of.

#3 There is no trust:

Without trust, your relationship is pure dysfunction. Trust is what makes relationships work. Think about your friendships. If you have a friend you don’t trust you don’t rely on them, you don’t share with them, you are polite and cordial, but without trust, it is not benefiting either one of you. If you can’t trust your partner or if your partner can’t trust you it is not working.

Sure, it could seem alright on the surface, but even without jealousy fueled fights, a lack of trust eats away at you. It burns down the right parts of the relationship and takes over. And whether there was never trust or if it has been broken, it is a hard thing to regain.

#4 You don’t want to be alone:

Not wanting to be single is one of the most common reasons people stay in a dysfunctional relationship, yet is one of the biggest signs of one. A relationship needs to be tended to; it needs to have a solid foundation to last on. But, if that foundation is a fear of being alone, the relationship is resting on fear, not joy or happiness.

Trust me, being single and happy is much better than being in a dysfunctional relationship. A dysfunctional relationship that you remain in out of fear eats away at your soul. You lose that sense of partnership and excitement and are surviving on something that is slowly decaying.

#5 You feel ashamed:

This is when I finally realised my former relationship was wildly dysfunctional. Instead of feeling happy and refreshed after seeing my boyfriend, I felt like utter crap. I felt bad about myself. A relationship should leave you feeling good. It should leave you with a smile and comfort, not a lack of confidence.

I would drive home from seeing my boyfriend and feel ashamed of how I was behaving. I let him walk all over me – like a doormat. While with him that was foggy though. I wore rose-coloured glasses around him. I ignored the bad stuff and only saw the good. But, every time we were apart I felt more and more ashamed. Once I was able to realise that I was closer to working up the nerve to stand my ground.

#6 You’re being manipulated:

It can be hard to catch on when you’re being manipulated. That is the whole point. When someone manipulates you, they do it in such a way that you don’t even realise you are being duped. For me, when I questioned my ex about other girls based on proof, he would flip it around on me. He would accuse me of not trusting him, and I would end up apologizing for something he did. And I didn’t even see it until the relationship was over.

This is master manipulation. When you know, you did nothing wrong but are moulded into feeling guilty about it, and the relationship is far into the dysfunctional spectrum. At this point, it probably happens so often you are used to the pattern. But try to spot it. That is the only way you can successfully put an end to it.

#7 You’re unhappy:

I am sorry to have to tell you this, but unhappiness is a sign of a dysfunctional relationship. Sure, we all have ruts and moments where our relationships make us want to pull our hair out. But, if those moments outweigh the good ones, it is not doing you any favours.

Your relationship should add to your life, not take away from it. If your relationship is adding negativity into your life, it is dysfunctional. It is affecting your life in the wrong way. If you are unsure about this, ask a friend or whoever you’re closest to. Ask them if when talking about your relationship or your partner if you complain more than you praise. Right there is your answer.