I have been married to my husband for 7 years, and lovemaking has gotten monotonous. I want to be in an open relationship but am afraid that my husband won’t agree or worse will get upset.
Wife’s perspective: I was never a believer in monogamy. But when I met my husband 8 years ago, I knew he was the one. I was so into him that the thought of two-timing never even crossed my mind. So naturally, when he proposed, I said yes. We’ve been married for 7 years, and intimacy has gotten pretty tedious and boring. I don’t want to divorce my husband, but I’ve started missing the old days when I would sleep around and have fun. I strongly feel I want to open our marriage, but I am scared my husband might get offended or hurt. How should I break the news to him?
Expert’s advice: Mel Williams
- Talk to your husband about trying something fun and different things in the bedroom; you can ask him to try hands-on adult toys for intense pleasure.
- Tell him what you are missing the most and wish to bring those old moments back.
- Communicate all your thoughts wisely.
Because when your husband married you, he didn’t agree or expect to invite strangers into your marriage.
If trying new things in the bedroom doesn’t work for you, then bring up the topic of an open relationship in a fun manner in front of your husband. Casually ask him about his thoughts on the subject. Be ready to hear his thoughts.
You must also consider that your husband might get attracted to someone else during the whole open marriage scenario and if you would be okay with it.
Don’t get into an open relationship because you are bored with the monotony, as there are other ways to deal with it. Do it only if you are sure you want it.