Have you ever wondered why it is that some people just manage to sail through life and achieve success aimlessly whilst others struggle?
Is this you? Do you believe you should be successful but can’t quite get to where you want to be?
If so, then the following may assist you in understanding what is actually running in the background.
The inner critic, the little voice in your head that taunts you into thinking that you are not good enough or that no one will want to listen to what you have to say. It judges criticize you and lowers your self-esteem. The negative self-talk of one of the 7 inner critics will try to keep you safe and not to move out of your comfort zone, when in fact, it is by moving out of your comfort zone that success happens.
Why are you delaying or postponing a certain task? What is it that is preventing you from following through with a certain something? Time will keep going regardless if you are ready or not to accomplish success. How much do you procrastinate, knowing that it will take you closer to your desires, your goals, or your dreams? Successful people know how to use the time to their advantage, and they seem to effortlessly accomplish their tasks without running out of time.
When your sense of accomplishment is derived from comparing yourself to others, you are no longer the master of your own success or happiness. By comparing yourself to others makes you want to be like them and have what they have, but this is your path, your journey to success. Flip the comparison to a positive and rather think negatively about what others have, think of it as it is a possibility, someone else has achieved it, so why can’t you?
This is one of the worst ways of self-sabotaging yourself. You are living in a sense of fear which is keeping you from achieving success, and it prevents you from moving forward in fear of doing something wrong. If you are frozen in fear of beginning a task, it blocks creativity and flows, making it far more difficult to achieve the desired outcome. Some wear perfectionism as a badge, but how long did it take them to accomplish what they set out to do. Yes, focus on the desired outcome; however, also be open to what may also come in to assist you in getting there.
These are the dream stealers. It is far too easy to make an excuse, which then throws up a huge barrier and makes being successful really hard. Why a dream stealer, because the excuse will then lead to you eventually giving up on your dream.
It’s too hard…
I don’t have enough time…
I don’t have enough money…
I’m too old to make a change…
I’m not good enough…
I might fail…
By living with this mindset is generally a justification not to do something or not to take action. It is just a lie that you are telling yourself and keeps you in that safe, warm comfort zone where you know nothing is going to change.
To achieve success requires action. It’s one thing to dream about it, but to achieve it, you have to get out of your own way.
Be focused, not blinkered
Don’t continuously say yes when you really mean no; saying no is a major self-control skill.
Discuss ideas with your tribe, not gossiping about people.
And stay away from negativity and people whose negative conversations can affect your attitude about yourself.