Every new relationship has some perks and cons, but once we commit to something, we can’t step back, especially in marriage. However, in marriage, things are different, and we get an entirely new family with an extra set of parents along with the partner. Initially, things seem fascinating, but when reality hits, things can be strained over time.
Sometimes it has been observed that too much interference from the in-laws makes the relationship toxic and suffocating. If it continues for the long term, it negatively impacts the relationship.
However, there’s a difference between opinion and destructive behavior, which needs to be understood well to take relevant action.
If you are also dealing with some strained relationship with your in-laws, it’s time to understand what could be the reason. But before taking any step, you need to figure out the signs.
Here we have listed a few signs through which you can understand whether your in-laws are toxic or just a difference of opinion.
They try to turn you and your partner against each other.
Every parent loves their child; however, sometimes, when they see their son or daughter inclined towards their partner, they often try to ignite the fuel between them. This can ruin the relationship. Thus if your in-laws try to figure out your mistake again and again in front of your partner, then it’s a clear sign of toxicity, which can cause misunderstanding in your relationship.
They are involved in your decisions as a couple.
Some in-laws are too dominant and try to involve themselves in the decisions you should make as a couple. However, it’s fine if they try suggesting things, but when they start being too pushy, it becomes suffocating.
They intentionally make you feel bad.
Some in-laws intentionally find out their mistake and make it a ruckus to prove them right or make their son-in-law or daughter-in-law feel less. However, it’s okay if it’s your genuine mistake. But when they try to hurt you intentionally, it’s a clear sign of interference.
They don’t respect your space.
If you live with your in-laws, they try to interfere with your space by involving your partner in their chores unnecessarily and don’t respect your time as a couple. If they have a habit of nagging that your partner doesn’t spend time with them, it’s become complicated to handle their attitude.
They are manipulative
Emotional manipulation is often the strongest way to get your partner in control, which is often toxic in-laws. It puts the couple under strain, and they become too selfish and want their partner to be with them rather than spend time with them.
No matter how good your relationship is with your partner, if you don’t have a healthy boundary between your in-laws, your relationship won’t sustain. So look for the signs, and if things get difficult, you should communicate with your partner and find a solution. You can even consult a marriage counselor.