As a part of the Morning Lazziness series about empowering women who are encouraging and doing incredible things with their ideas in society, I had the pleasure of interviewing Pamela Andrews.
Pamela Andrews is the co-owner of The Absolute Dater, a leading website on dating tips.
It is such a pleasure having you; please let our users know about yourself and your inspiration journey as the co-owner of the Absolute Dater?
I am a simpleton with a lot of ambitions in life. I adore the concept of love and everything associated with it.
I was also on the lookout for my soulmate; after all, who isn’t? I was initially skeptical about online dating, but the more I learned about some of the current online dating services and how they function through an algorithm to match couples with similar likes and interests, the more convinced I became.
The more I learned about it, the more I wanted to know how it worked out. I checked up one of the dating apps called Coffee meats bagel; I was matched with around five men at first. Don’t get me wrong, they were all very decent, but one stuck out, and he turned out to indeed be my soulmate. That is what inspired and motivated me to help others discover their faithful companion in the same manner I did.
What brought you to this specific career path?
I have always been good at pairing people up, and fortunately, it always turned out well to my advantage. I believe that was my calling.
What challenges did you face at the start of your business? And how did you overcome them?
While it’s tempting to dismiss dating services and apps as harmless diversionary activities for those looking for love, they are pretty successful. The challenge is it’s never easy to develop an exciting gateway with an almost addicting experience that encourages people to return and not give up hope of finding the one. According to research,
- 23% of users will only give it a go once before giving it up.
- Only 38% of consumers intend to use it more than 11 times.
I have gathered that it all comes down to the value you provide and how effectively your website’s design and functionality contribute to that value. What works is the consumer’s experience with the pace and convenience with which they may find a match.
Can you tell us the most exciting story that happened to you since you began your career?
We hear success tales from couples. It’s a thrilling sensation to know that you are a part of the cause for a successful relationship’s start—the reason why people use our site to connect.
The one that ended in marriage is the most inspiring narrative I’ve ever told. We had a client who tried many online dating sites but never gave up hope, and after 34 different dates, she found and married the man of her dreams.
How is online dating evolved in 2021?
Dating apps, like many other tech goods, have performed well during the pandemic. There has been an upsurge in downloads and subscriptions since COVID-19.
Many users will tell you that internet dating has enhanced their dating life and reduced feelings of loneliness, particularly during the pandemic.
Currently, video conversations are viewed as more performative than beneficial.
According to you, who is most thought to cheat when it comes to online dating?
By hooking up online with someone who isn’t your partner, you might get deeply involved with someone who isn’t your spouse or partner. However, while it may appear to be harmless—after all, you aren’t in physical contact—online adultery is precisely just that: cheating. An online affair is similar to a physical fling in that it can cause long-term damage to a relationship.
When two individuals start having cybersex, it’s pretty easy for them to get carried away. It is usually an indication that there’s an issue in the current relationship, leading to online infidelity. Many of these people choose sites similar to Adult Friend Finder sites whilst searching for online hookups.
Share 5 pros and cons of online dating? (As per you)
- Meeting new people
- Opportunity to meet like-minded individuals
- The choice is in your hands
- You and who you meet are on the same page with what you are looking for
- It is great for shy people
- You may be surprised by your preferences
- Profiles do not always show and tell you everything
- Most online dating sites put a lot of focus on physical attractiveness
- Romantic pressure that may not come easy for some people
- It can also be dangerous. You will need to be careful coming across tricksters and scammers.
What are your plans for the future, how do you plan to grow this company?
We must illustrate the positioning of how we planned to capture/retain market share in our niche. Otherwise, we may risk becoming just another fad dating platform.
There will always be challenges that we will have to deal with in the future. I believe it is critical to be up to date with current events, design development, and the desire to adapt to develop.
What this world needs the most?
More love, peace, and acceptance are needed in the world.
If you could have dinner with three people, dead or alive, who would they be and why?
I would want to have dinner with Robin Williams, Kevin Hart, and Chris Rock and laugh the entire time.
In moments of self-doubt or adversity, how do you build yourself back up?
When you’re confronted with new or complex conditions, it’s natural to feel uncertain. It’s helpful to keep in mind that we’re all human. When we have doubts about our skills, it’s usually because we don’t want to make any mistakes. Mistakes, on the other hand, are how we learn and evolve.
Spending time and connecting with supportive and encouraging people helps, in my opinion. They can help you remember how brilliant and resilient you are when you feel so good about yourself.
Lastly, what is your definition of success?
Success is when you work hard for your dreams to become a reality. Believe in yourself and believe in what you do, and you will go places.
Thank you for these fantastic insights. We greatly appreciate the time you spent on this.