Red light, green light! If you, too, are a fan of the famous Korean show Squid Game, you know what I am talking about. If you see the red light, you must stop, or you will have to face the consequences. But if you spot the green light, you must go, go, go.
Dating is similar to this game; only the word “light” is replaced with “flag.” Today we’ll talk about the green flags in a relationship that indicate you’re on the path to a healthy partnership.
1. They are upfront about their feelings for you
No one should have to put their dignity and self-respect in the backseat and ask their partner how they feel about the relationship. If your partner openly talks about their choices and makes them clear to you, it’s a definite green flag.
If you are having a hard time believing your partner’s intention or they are gatekeeping their affection, then it’s a bad sign. The ideal partner will never make you question your values in their eyes. Instead, it makes you feel loved and appreciated.
2. They respect your ‘No.’
No means no. It doesn’t need any explanations and definitions. If your boo gets that, it’s a green flag from their end. I’ll explain this to you with a fitting example. Let’s say the person you are dating asks you to catch up in the evening, but you’ve had a long tiring day at work. Instead of making a big fuss and accusing you of making excuses, your partner will understand your tiredness and reschedule the date as per your availability.
3. You don’t get bored with them.
Time flies when you are having fun. It’s all just physics, relativity theory, to be specific. Einstein explained it this way, “Sitting for 2 minutes on top of a stove feels longer than being on a date for 2 minutes with a pretty lady”. So if spending time with your person feels like sitting on a stove, it’s a bad sign.
On the other hand, if you can’t wait to meet your boo and keep checking the time to see how long before your date, that’s a definite green flag. Who knew there is Science in dating!
4. You have got a friend in them.
Don’t worry. You are not being friend-zoned. The foundation of every great relationship starts with friendship. You can share everything without the fear of being judged. You respect and value each other. You can turn to each other for guidance in difficult times. Even if everything falls apart between you two, you know you can call them your friend; it’s a green flag.
5. They prioritize you.
Ever heard that it’s not about how busy you are; it’s about the priorities. Well, that’s true. It doesn’t matter what your schedule looks like; you have to make time for things that matter to you.
Coincidentally your teacher used the same fact while scolding you for not doing your homework. Remember, “Did you forget to have dinner? Then why did you forget to do your homework?”
If your partner values you, they’ll find time for you. But keep in mind that they can’t always be available for you; they have their own life as well.
6. They are emotionally mature.
Your partner is having a tough time. How do they react? Do they lash out on you or bottle up their emotions, or do they deal with it rationally and find the solution to their problems?
You won’t want to spend the rest of your life babysitting an emotionally immature adult who doesn’t know how to handle their emotions. It’s a green flag if the person you are seeing has worked on themselves and knows how to manage their feelings in a healthy way.
7. They have their own life and encourage you to have your own.
Being with a clingy person is suffocating. Your partner can’t be your everything; it leads to neediness. It is important in a healthy relationship to have friends and interests other than each other. If your partner encourages you to have your own life outside of the relationship, that’s a green flag. Dependency makes everything toxic.
When you are on a date next time, don’t get lost in their charisma; also, focus on the green flags that we compiled for you.