As parents, we do not need to tell you that it can be rather difficult to find some time in the day that is not purely focused on your kids.
We have all spent so much time over the last couple of years making sure that everything kept running as smoothly and as normally as possible for them that it has been tough to take a breath, let alone a moment for yourselves.
Now that things are finally starting to get back to normal in the UK, it feels like there might be a bit more time in the day. And that means more time for you two.
If it feels like you and your partner have been hard pushed for quality time in the last few months, this is the perfect time to think about taking proactive steps towards remedying that. Of course, it is not always as simple as just flicking a switch.
Getting those hours back that is just the two of you, not to mention making the most of them, is going to take some work. Here are a few tips to help you get started on the path towards more quality time together.
Try To Be Spontaneous
When you are stressed and pushed for time, it often feels like the only way that anything will get done is by scheduling it in the diary. Well, there is nothing that robs the moment of any feeling of spontaneity like actively removing all of the spontaneity from it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting a date night in the books but try looking for ways that you can add some spur of the moment time.
Pop-out for a quick drink at your local on a weeknight, for example. If you both find yourself at a loose end, see what’s playing at your nearest cinema. Remember what you used to do for fun before the pandemic and just treat yourself if the moment strikes.
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Remember To Show Affection Physically
This one can be tough if you have both been pushed to the point of exhaustion. Any parent is all too familiar with the feeling of wanting to have some intimate couples time but feeling too shattered to do anything but fall asleep.
But physical intimacy is a very important part of keeping that spark alive and making each other feel wanted and loved. If it feels like you have drifted apart physically, then you can start with small steps like cuddling or simply holding each other in bed.
If you feel a little more adventurous, why not introduce a sex toy into your bedroom? Sex toys can enrich couples’ sex life, and Sinful has a fantastic range of erotic products for them to consider. With discreet delivery and packaging, they also offer free shipping on orders over £55.
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Get Away From It All
We have all spent far too much time inside our own four walls over the last couple of years, and we should all be thinking about how we can get out and see somewhere different. There is nothing quite like a family holiday, but parents know that couples’ time can be hard to find on a trip that includes your little ones.
Think about carving out some space in your diary and asking a family member to look after your kids for a couple of days so that you and your partner can get away just the two of you. Whether you are the kind of couple that loves the hustle and bustle of a city break or you prefer the peaceful quiet of a countryside getaway, treating yourself to a short break for two is the kind of thing that can really help you to reconnect.
Listen To Each Other’s Needs
It can be difficult to listen to your own needs as well as your partner’s when you spend so much time focused on the needs of your children. However, if you continue to ignore what your brain is telling you, then you will find it harder and harder to connect about anything other than how the kids are doing. We have all been struggling with our mental health over the last couple of years and we have learned how important it is to talk about the things that are bothering us and listen to the people in our lives.
If you have been having a hard time finding the right time for time with your partner, then try to speak more openly and honestly about what it is that you need.
Make it clear that you are there to listen to what they need and talk about how you can work together to find that closeness that may have been hard to come by in recent months. You should never feel like you are in it alone when you are in a relationship.