Usually, the first date can be awkward as both of you might be nervous, unsure of what to talk about, and don’t know whether you’re attracted to each other yet. It’s mostly about getting to know one another and trying not to creep each other out. However, the second date is when you have a chance to talk more in-depth about things that are important to you, leaving the initial nerves behind you.
Modern dating has changed the game on so many levels for many people. It has become a much easier way for people to dive into the dating scene without having to feel overwhelmed. Whether you found each other on personals posted on online dating apps or you met in a café, knowing a few first date tips can help you score a second date without a problem.
1. Dress comfortably
People are visual beings and as such, the first thing they notice is usually the appearance of the person in front of them. One of the main concerns for those going on a first date is that they want to leave a good impression, and spend too much time deciding which outfit is the best choice. However, the point is to dress for confidence as well as comfort.
Depending on where your date will take place, choose an outfit that is simple yet elegant. Also, think about the accessories you combine with your outfit. If you’re looking for something that goes with almost any outfit, consider pearl earrings. They’re elegant and timeless pieces of jewelry that go with either casual or formal wear. You may want to give the impression that you’re not trying to impress someone, and you’re simply trying to be yourself.
2. Plan a fun activity
If you want to avoid feeling nervous and have difficulty coming up with things to talk about, consider planning a fun activity that will help you both feel relaxed. Going for dinner and a movie is one of the most common choices for the first date for many people. However, you might want to shake things up, be unique, and come up with an interesting activity for both of you to enjoy.
For instance, consider visiting an escape room, going ice skating, or going for a hike. This will not only help you get out of your comfort zone but it will be a great way to spend some time together doing something you’ve never done on a first date before. Sharing an activity will help you slide in and out of typical first-date banter and have a great time together at the same time.
3. Give thoughtful compliments
Both girls and guys appreciate a thoughtful compliment that is genuine. However, make sure you don’t go overboard and give too many compliments in a short period. Complimenting their looks is a totally appropriate way to cheer someone up and boost their confidence. But don’t just compliment their appearance.
Think about something other than that such as their laugh, intelligence, taste in music, or sense of humor. This will also help you set a positive tone for your date night and make the other person feel more confident and comfortable talking with you.
4. Ask questions
It’s okay to prove to your date that you’re smart and funny at the same time, but if you go home with a sore throat after every first date, you’re probably talking too much. You wouldn’t want your date to describe you to their friends as someone who only blabs about themselves. Make sure you find out more about your date before you go out with them.
Come up with interesting questions and pay attention to body language. For instance, find out who they are and what they like to show you care more about them than describing your life history in one night. Note that about 80%-90% of people’s communication is nonverbal. First dates tend to make a person feel nervous, and when we’re nervous we tend to talk too much, avoid eye contact, and cross our arms. Try to avoid these gestures to show your interest in the person you’re with.
5. Extend the date
If you want to turn your first date into an epic one, so you leave a good impression and go for a second date, try extending it. Imagine you got together for a drink, talked and laughed a bit, and then it’s time to go but you’re not ready. Suggest following your drink date with that new dessert bar or a casual club, or simply watching the sunset together. Do something unexpected and you may get a call the next day to go for round two of a fun and exciting night out.
If you experienced a fun date, the chances are your partner did too. Keep in mind that with the right attitude dating can be one of the most fun and educational phases of your life. You’ll learn what you like and dislike, the qualities that you enjoy in other people, and how you can improve and grow in relationships with yourself and others.