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22 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Making Your Next Big Life Decision

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Have you ever thought about making a big decision that could potentially change your life forever? Well, if you have, then good for you. However, before you make your decision about your life choices, here are a few questions that you need to ask yourself first. 

1. Have I been thinking about this for a long time?

This is a fantastic question that a good life coach would ask you. “I’ve wanted to start a party-planning business since I saw a movie about it two days ago!” someone could say to me. “I’ve wanted to establish a party-planning business for two or three years—it’s always been in the back of my mind!” vs. “I’ve wanted to start a party-planning business for two or three years—always it’s been in the back of my mind!” The quantity of time you devote to anything is a good indicator of its significance to you. The more time you spend contemplating it, the more important it becomes.

2. How serious am I about making this change?

Rate your level of dedication on a scale of one to ten. Think about how much time, work, and effort you’d have to put in. Is your level of commitment higher than a 7? That’s fantastic information for making your decision!

3. How does my body feel when I think about it?

Consider the consequences of your decision. Look at yourself and your life in a few months. What effect does it have on you? How does your body react? Excitement, apprehension, and relief are all wonderful emotions to have! Be cautious of feelings of drabness or lethargy.

4. Do I have a fearful or intuitive feeling?

Fear frequently instructs us on what to do next. That’s because we get frightened when something is essential to us. Hey, we don’t want to fail or make a mistake on this critical duty! Make an honest assessment of any anxieties you may be having. Consider this: Could my apprehension be intuitive, guiding me in the right direction?

5. Is this choice consistent with my long-term objectives?

“What do I want in five, ten years?” you might wonder. Create a list of your goals. Then think about how this choice fits into your long-term plan. If you’ve been single for a while and want to marry and create a family in the coming years, getting out there and creating an online dating profile is a great idea! Contribute that your future self will value.

6. What are my specific choices?

Let’s get a little more into this. What are the precise alternatives available to you? It’s just the two of them, isn’t it? Is there anything more I should know? Are there any additional options you haven’t thought of? Make a list—you might be amazed by the possibilities!

7. What are the risks associated with my choices?

When you’ve weighed your options and decided which one to pursue, ask yourself, “What is the real risk of doing this?” Make a list of everything that’s keeping you from making the decision, as well as the worst-case scenarios. So, tell me, how risky is it?

8. What are the consequences of not doing it?

This is one of my favorite questions of all time! What are you giving up if you don’t follow through on a creative idea, a desire to relocate somewhere new, or a want to stop a burning relationship? Because inaction is action, the reality here might be gloomy. What are you missing out on if you don’t act now?

9. Is now the best time to do it?

Remember that not all decisions must be made immediately. There are, however, very few valid reasons to postpone making a significant decision when the time occurs. Always keep in mind that life is unpredictable and that time does not wait for anyone.

10. If not now, when will it be?

If now isn’t the best moment to make your decision, set a deadline for yourself. But don’t wait too long—we can’t “taste” deadlines set more than six months in advance, so they’re rarely successful. What will you commit to before the holidays this year?

11. How does my previous experience inform me of this?

If you’re still not convinced, think about your previous experiences. When was the last time you had to make a significant choice? Is it true that you made it out alive? Are you satisfied with the results? How will your previous choices assist you in making this one?

12. What happened to the fun?

Yes, change may be a scary thing. Change, on the other hand, is required for growth to occur. This rule does not have any exceptions. Can you foresee or conceive how much pleasure making this decision will be? Even in the most trying of circumstances, you can find something positive to focus on—always it’s there!

13. When you let your thoughts wander, where does it go?

Do you ever have daydreams that come true? Are there any patterns that can be discovered? Do you have any daydreams that you’d like to pursue if you didn’t have any other obligations?

14. Would be making this change make your life better or worse?

This is where the advantages and disadvantages come into play if you’re going to make a change, attempt to consider the big picture while focusing on attainable goals.

15. What is it that is preventing you from making this change? Is it a coincidence, someone in your life, a certain area, etc.?

Is there a chance your situation may change and you’ll be able to make this move, or is it a no-go? Is there anything you could do to make that happen in your current situation?

16. Will you be sorry if you don’t pursue this desire or make this change?

Regret is a powerful emotion, but I want you to think about how you’ll feel if you don’t do what you’re thinking about. Is it something you’ll feel bad about at first but be fine not pursuing, or something you’ll always be sorry you didn’t pursue?

17. Is it better to stay in your current situation or make this change in the long run?

This is an important question to consider. Take a deep breath and consider how you would feel if you were to make this change no matter what. Would changing your mind make you happier in the long run?

18. What do I have a fear of?

People commonly find themselves unwilling to make decisions because they are terrified of what will happen if they do. Some people are afraid of success, while others are afraid of failing. When faced with a difficult life decision, consider if you will decide because of fear or because of your initiative.

19. What does my heart have to say to me?

Your instincts are often correct, and you should never make a decision that doesn’t feel right. Set aside convention, disagreeable advice, and other people’s viewpoints, and assess whether this is something you desire, something that appeals to you in the manner that only a genuine desire can.

20. Why am I doing this in the first place? What am I doing this for?

The most prudent decisions are those made with the end in mind. Taking the important step of purchasing a home, for example, may bring you closer to your ultimate objective of stability and raising a family. Buying a home, on the other hand, may not be the ideal option if your goals include seeing as much of the world as possible. Keep your goals in mind when making significant decisions.

21. Why am I doing this in the first place? Who am I doing this for?

Allowing the intentions or suggestions of others to influence your decision is not a good idea. It’s important to consider others’ interests while deciding, but you shouldn’t put your wants and objectives on hold just to please someone else. Take a balanced look at how your decisions will benefit you and others when presented with a difficult life decision.

22. Will I like myself more now that I’ve made this decision?

Without contemplating how their decision would affect their self-esteem, anyone can make a difficult decision that fulfills all the requirements for a solution. You may come to dislike yourself if you make a callous or apathetic decision. If you make one that is untouchable, your self-esteem is likely to suffer. Consider how you’ll feel about yourself if you make this choice when you’re faced with a difficult decision.

The answers to these questions can help you in making your next big life-changing decision. So, before you do anything drastic, think carefully about your answers to these questions. It will help you decide what to do next.