If only we could take a vacuum to the pain that we hold in, suck it out, and rid our bodies and minds of it forever… This is the true goal of healing and therapy- to dump the baggage and stop the thoughts that play over and over again in our heads.
When loss happens, the subconscious takes on the thought process of “what did I do?” Or “why me?”. In healing, these are the wrong questions to ask. Instead, we look to turn these questions into questions like “what am I being prepared for?” or “how will these events change me and inspire me to grow?” Peace can only happen through what is called “alchemical transformation.” This is a method of trauma deletion that helps us rid the thoughts that make us suffer.
There are many different types of trauma that can affect an individual, but they are all the same on the bottom line. In that, human beings cannot run, hide, deny, or silence the thoughts in our head. If we try to cover up these thoughts, time will only make the energy inside of them fester and grow until the trauma shows up at a completely unexpected time.
Often it is this unprocessed trauma that makes us sick. Doctors may diagnose whatever is happening inside of us as an illness and try to help mask the anxiety with anti-depressants. Yet, what we’re really suffering from is the reality of life and the pressure of keeping our thoughts silent. Trauma is like a nuclear bomb living inside our bodies; it is a toxic energy that we try to distract by living our lives day to day and frequent visits to a therapist.
Yet, it is important to note that you can not heal your traumas solely by working through them in your head. I urge my patients to find an exercise to help release the tension, punch a pillow, scream, do whatever it takes to find a way to physically expel the trauma.
It is also important to know that our minds and hearts are like two unalike countries when it comes to the language of trauma. We must respect the difference and honor whatever we’re feeling, whether it be anger, rage, or something other reaction to these memories. It is crucial that we do not pretend like our trauma is not here. We can’t store it away, rationalize it or judge it/shame it. We have to allow ourselves to feel what we feel. That said, we have to make the space and time to do the healing and respect the process and find a healer who can help us safely scream, shout it out, cry, and get the pain to leave our bodies. Healing is about bringing everything into the light of truth, and the truth sets us free.
I have worked in my field of therapy and spiritual healing for over 20 years now, and in that time, I’ve searched for revolutionary keys to help my patients on their journey to self-growth and trauma recovery. With “spiritual soul perspective” we learn the higher truth, that we are here in “earth’s classroom” to learn our lessons and become our best selves.
With “spiritual sight,” we can begin to look at pain in a new way, as a call for transformation. Like we go to the gym to strengthen our bodies, we go through trauma to become stronger internally. Once we realize this, we begin healing, and healing spiritually is to do the great work, to return from the dark night of the soul enriched.
We begin a healing journey by deciding to do whatever it takes to live a healthy life. It is to heal the soul wound, the place where all the pain began (this usually happens between ages 5-8). Unless we heal at the root of the soul, we will continue to meet the same issues in our lifetime.