The term ‘creatures of habit’ has taken on a whole new meaning recently. Clients ask me almost daily, “Why do I feel so tired all of the time…I have no excuse; I barely leave the house?”
At first thought, it does seem to be oxymoronic. But the truth is that we could lay in bed all day long and feel more fatigued than if we had worked a full day at the office or run errands all afternoon with our kids in tow. We have been unable to escape a constant state of worry and anxiety, and it has taken a toll.
Even when it feels like so much is out of our control, we still have the power to determine our own fate.
When life feels off-kilter and unsteady, we have two choices: recede and hide or step into the light and go on the offensive. For me, the clear choice has always been an offense. It is the scarier of the two, no doubt, but when we summon the courage to stand in our truth and be fully present, happiness, success, and pride always follow. We have the ability to take control of our life and live it with purpose, even during difficult times.
This mindset has worked for me as a psychotherapist, sister, wife, and mother. I get up every morning, dig my heels in and fully engage in the promise of a new day. It doesn’t always feel organic, and some days prove more difficult than others, but it is a conscious choice that I make every single day. It comes down to this:
We are powerful beyond measure, and we are at our best and most formidable when we are fully engaged.
How do you get your groove back? The answer is simple: wake up tomorrow morning and choose to do something, do anything that involves your brain or your body. If you have meant to paint the spare bedroom in your home, go to Home Depot and pick up some paint, and get started. If you have been gorging on too much take-out, look online for healthy recipes and cook something yummy for yourself and the ones you love. If you haven’t been able to get to the gym, put on your sneakers, grab a jacket and some sunglasses, and walk out the front door. It’s really that easy.
Set your sights on accomplishing one small thing…that’s how you get the ball rolling.
Practicing Mindfulness has become chic, and for a good reason. The benefits are many; reduced stress, decreased anxiety and depression, and increased focus, and improved working memory. There are other ways to kick lethargy and apathy in the ass. Yoga has become a ubiquitous activity that people of all ages enjoy because it is low-impact and user-friendly. Type the word ‘yoga’ into YouTube, and you will find an array of yoga classes…for free!
Some people have had fun transforming their kitchens into mini Food Network sets. They’ve bought air fryers and pasta makers and have been experimenting with recipes while spending so much time at home. It can be challenging and fun to learn something new or even adopt a new way of living. For instance, there is a Vegan Diet Revolution going on, and people are raving about how great they feel. The point is, it doesn’t matter what you do.
Find something that gets you jazzed and put your foot on the gas and go!
I have always admired people who incorporate meditation into their daily lives. Meditation is an incredible tool for achieving emotional well-being. It offers a sense of calm, inner peace, and balance that benefits your overall health. I have tried to practice meditation, and it does not come naturally to me, at least not yet. Until that day comes, I practice what works for me…my own brand of ‘mindful-meditation’ that helps me to be present and motivated to live life with intention. I listen and move my body to Otis Redding’s, Sitting on the Dock of the Bay, and I am able to find a deep sense of calm, peace, and utter joy. I envision myself sitting at the end of a dock with my legs dangling below and the hot sun blazing my shoulders. If I am really plugged in, I can almost hear the sound of the bay lapping against the dock.
Remember, it doesn’t matter what you do…find what works for you and do it!
- What I Do When I Don’t Want to Do Anything Anymore - April 5, 2021