As said, “We are not clones; every individual is different; and have a different choice.”
Relationships, like most things in life, are worth having, require effort. We have to accommodate and adapt our partners’ habits, deal with their faults, tackle their moods, etc.- these learnings help to build a passionate relationship.
Though not every relationship is picture-perfect, few are stressful and full of complexity. These kinds of relationships are not hopeless but require substantial and enormous work. But sometimes, things in the relationship get frightful when one partner becomes aggressive and deprecated, which becomes another partner’s worst nightmare.
What is a toxic relationship?
A toxic relationship is a relationship categorized by behaviors on the part of the toxic partner that are emotionally and, not infrequently, physically damaging to their partner.
Think of it this way: a healthy relationship increases self-esteem and brings positivity. Whereas a toxic relationship emotionally drains and sabotages self-love.
A sweet loving relationship involves mutual caring, loyalty, respect, allowing significant others to follow their passion and support like a robust wall. A happy relationship is portrayed as a safe place where both partners can feel free, communicate well. Plus, a feeling of self-centeredness may bound the relationship stronger. Regarding the toxic relationship, dominance, insecurity, and a state of fear perpetually remain. To say a toxic relationship is dysfunctional is, at best, an understatement.
Keep one thing in mind: it takes two individuals’ behaviour and the way of analyzing things to have a toxic relationship.
Don’t continue such relationships if you’re seeing your partner has started behaving weirdly after spending a few months of a happy relationship. Being single is far better than being in such a relationship where you are not valued.
Signs of a Toxic Relationship
Trust me, no matter how much you love your partner, involving physical violence or substance abuse calls an immediate intervention. Risking and losing your self-worth for your significant other happiness doesn’t make an affectionate relationship. Though it’s hard to come back to a healthy life, it can be.
So, here are the signs that depict how a toxic relationship looks like.
1. Passive aggression:
Nobody likes to hold their feelings and emotions in their hearts, especially in a relationship when you are seeing things are not working well, and only love can heal it.
You want to do your best to sort the situations. But, your partner keeps pushing you down by saying offensive words. Passion-aggression has become their middle name; then, it’s time to give a second thought to your relationship. Not talking about your feelings is a sign of immaturity and can lead down a dangerous road.
2. The blame game is always on:
At a few stages of a relationship, we become aggressive with our own problems. We start blaming our conditions on the better half. Whether not getting promoted in the office or things are not well at home, our partner is the one who is responsible for everything. So, if your partner never takes responsibility for their actions and keeps blaming you, that’s toxicity at its best.
A bit of jealousy looks cute in the relationship. But, when that jealousy builds up excessively in a negative way, that may put you in trouble. If your partner pokes you every time, on every other small thing, then it’s a subtle sign of a toxic relationship.
4. You don’t feel like being yourself:
You have lost your identity to make your partner happy, which is not a good thing. Such relationships fall apart soon. “Love yourself first before loving someone.”
5. Ignorance or Avoidance:
Ignorance is the first sign that says your relationship has ended. If you see your partner is yelling and considering friends above you when you want them to stay, then moving out from such a relationship is the best antidote you can give yourself.
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6. Your only wish to make your partner happy:
You no longer care about your happiness; your goal has become to keep your partner happy and to spend most time pleasing them. You eat what they want, do that which they asked you to do, you basically have become their personal slave and no longer wish to live for oneself. You are in a highly manipulative toxic (dysfunctional) relationship where your partner controls your emotions. You’re in trouble and need significant help.
7. You do nothing right:
You want to do everything perfectly, though you do, your partner always criticizes you. They won’t get to see the love for you in their eyes. For your partner, you are a failure and unworthy of love.
Honestly, if you are getting such ruthless comments from your partner, then it’s time to take a step back.
8. Your friends and family don’t like them:
Nobody likes to hear if somebody speaks – bad words to their partner. But if that somebody is your close friend and family member, then you should listen. If they ask you that your relationship has no bright future and is changing you or has become toxic, then moving out is the best gift you can give to your family. Your friends and family love you and want the best for you.
Have you ever witnessed any of these above-given signs in your relationship? Then you very well know where your relationship is leading to – a toxic relationship.
To help you figure out the things, either consult a relationship counsellor or therapist. It may help you bring the best of yourself and ask you to read the motivational/intellectual/positive books that develop the lost self-esteem and self-confidence. Believe in yourself!!